|Enjoy the parties, but don’t ONLY party|
For those of you who are joining a fraternity, I’d like to give you a few tips. Consider yourself duly warned.
#1 All Fraternities are the same! Kind of……..
When ever people hear about about fraternities through media, they commonly hear that there is a frat that is “the best house” on campus, or the coolest guys. Don’t let these types of tips influence your judgement, try your best to find the frat where the majority of brothers are most like you.
Some frats are nerdy, some jocky, some are just a straight guys chance to circle jerk his and his friends egos; however, we all fit into one of these categories, and the may others. Try to be honest with yourself on who you are, and where you ACTUALLY will fit in.
#2 Once you find that frat that is right for you, pledge like you mean it.
So many kids go through pledging just trying to do the bare minimum until they are initiated. Don’t be that guy! If your not going to give it your all, you’re wasting your time. You will always be given things you don’t want to do, and probably can take an easy route on, but just like anything else, the more you put in the more you get out.
Being accepted into a brotherhood is infinitely more meaningful if you know you put in the work to deserve it, and if the brothers recognize it, they will respect you for it.
#3 If you have made it all the way to initiation and are accepted into your brotherhood, congrats! But now focus on important things with your frat.
To be blatant, a lot of lame kids are initiated into every fraternity every class that only will focus on partying, this is great! Enjoy the parties, they are the kids that fill in the space and do a lot of the work to get them going.
Most of the time though, this is all those kids know how to do, so leave it to them. Take the initiative to focus on more important things that will bring respect to your fraternity externally. Look into charities, philanthropy ideas, scholarships and try to make the community a better place.
The parties always happen and always will, there is no point wasting your time when others will inevitably take care of something. If you are one of those people, take no offense, there is an important place for you and for what you do.
I hope someone finds these three tips useful.